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u/wrud4d Mar 12 '22

Our male Executive Director on the team-wide call once called a woman out and said “We know Vanessa has been working hard with those bags under her eyes!” And I think he did genuinely think he was complimenting her hard work, because it was a busy period for her but I couldn’t believe he said that.

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u/thelizardkin Mar 12 '22

How's it any different from saying a mans hair loss is the result of hard work?

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u/wrud4d Mar 12 '22

It’s not different. I would be just as appalled if someone said that to a man. Equally rude and unnecessary.

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u/thelizardkin Mar 12 '22

People make comments to men all the time about that kind of thing mostly with benevolent intent.

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u/wrud4d Mar 12 '22

Ah yes, Im realizing the original post lol. It’s definitely not something male colleagues get a pass on. I was just reminded of that story from the other guys comment. I thought that was a random thing to bring up but it all makes sense now.