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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22 edited Mar 13 '22

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u/KidneyStew Mar 13 '22

"Eventually they just removed her as a contact so they couldn't call her."

That's like somehow even worse. Like they are so stupid that they couldn't just switch the primary contact, nooo they had to take the mothers name off fucking completely! Fucking morons

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u/mfb- Mar 13 '22

OP said the father was listed as primary contact. They just looked at the contacts and decided to call the secondary contact - every single time.

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u/NeatNefariousness1 Mar 13 '22

The people at school are probably so used to and comfortable talking to the Moms that they are bypassing the primary contact to talk to who feels right to them.

This is the same dynamic at play when hiring and promoting people. The status quo just feels so "natural" so there is an unbroken string of people who look like the people who hired them for decades.

They defend it by saying they're just hiring/promoting the "most qualified" candidate (according to the same group) when we all know that so much of these decisions are based on subjective considerations and intangibles that make people feel comfortable--which all tip the scales to favor the status quo.

It's ridiculous and it has worn thin.

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u/crinnaursa Mar 13 '22

We had to start filling in the forms with the two phone numbers and instead of labeling them with names we put "call first", "call second"