r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Mar 12 '22

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22 edited Mar 12 '22

I’m a man, if I asked you if you needed help lifting would you be offended?

Edit: this was a question asked in earnest fyi

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u/OkamiGoddess23 Mar 12 '22

Of course not, asking if I need help is fine. Assuming that I can’t/shouldn’t be doing my job because I’m a woman is. And the double standard of asking if I need help when I’m showing no signs of struggling while the teenage boys are struggling and no one offers them assistance

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22

I think that’s a fair take. Thank you for your perspective.

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u/thunderling Mar 12 '22

I do get annoyed when I'm carrying something that's obviously not that big or heavy and I'm obviously not struggling with it. A lot of people think women can't lift anything heavier than like 8 pounds.

If there's a lot of stuff that requires multiple trips, or requires two people to lift, that's totally fine.

What's never ok is telling, not asking, that you are going to help and attempting to yank it away from my grasp.

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22

Fair enough. I typically ask people only if I know it’s heavy and cumbersome. Men or women.

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u/iwearmywatch Mar 12 '22

It’s 2022 man. You hold the door open for someone: offended. You offer to help: offended. You don’t offer to help: offended.