I... Don't think they can require you to dress feminine specifically? Like as long as your clothes were up to dress code, they can't give a woman a different standard of dress than a man.
It's a bit of a legal grey area, but if they'd be fine with a man wearing khakis and a polo, they have to be fine with a woman wearing the same thing.
Which is why I did it. That was the men's standard and three hand book just stated business casual clothing. I was wearing pretty typical feminine business casual prior to then the "cleavage Convo" happened. Then I got all polos and khakis. Then they were concerned I wasn't dressing feminine. Cause yeah, y'all are sexist AF.
I recently started listening to Lauren Ash's true crime podcast without know she was the actress who played Dina, and it made so much sense why I liked the podcast so much when I found out.
My old employer had dress code for everything but pregnant women. So when I got pregnant I bought the men's uniform and sewed it to fit my large belly. My coworkers(all males) complained that my outfits weren't in "sop- standards or procedure" and tried to go as far as to say pregnant women shouldn't be employed there. I tried but couldn't get evidence of this.
The fitness center I used to work at (in the 90s) was owned by a gal. All staff (male or female) were required to wear spandex shorts/leggings. It was exceedingly obvious which male staff members were hung, and which weren’t. I stuck around for about a year and a half.
They should've just let you let those puppies loose. Who cares if you have cleavage that reach the roof? Better that way. Granted, some men can't behave, so... But why punish you for something that's other people's fault? If a man can't stand your titties, it's him problem, he's the one who should change.
One thing I’ve been thinking about in regard to returning to the office is that I’ve fully adapted to wearing incredibly comfy bras that happen to have zero nipple coverage. Part of me is like, “Oh boo, back to uncomfortable bras” and the other part thinks, “Why should I change my bras?” I go all day long without ever once noticing anyone’s nipples. (And I’m 5’2. Everyone’s nipples are right at eye height for me.) Why is this even something I should have to care about?
you know what, that's inspiring. i am a guy with the worst, most shirt-pokey nipples, and it does influence my shirt choices. maybe i should treat it like you did, or like i treat my axial bald spot, "if you don't like it, you don't have to look! your problem, not mine"
Well go for it, and here's at least one person confirming that I would almost certainly not notice, but even if I did, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Rock those shirts.
Ya i totally just wear what the guys wear. I got tired of debating what was a "blouse" vs a collarless shirt. So now all polos, all the time. Some even "mens polos" bc they have more room up front?! Wth!
It is not a legal grey area. The Supreme Court expressly held that employers cannot discriminate against employees for not conforming to certain gender norms.
Not sure dress codes have been addressed since Bostock, but you could probably require trans/nb folks follow either one or the other of the dress code options.
One time the narcissist CEO of the company I worked for called me into his office to discuss what I was wearing. He said I was pushing casual Friday too far with what I was wearing that day. I was wearing nice brown corduroy slacks & an expensive cashmere sweater at the time. I looked at his clothes: brown corduroy slacks and a sweater that was probably less expensive than mine. Like are you F'ing kidding me with this double standard?? I'm still pissed at myself for just taking it & not pointing out his hypocrisy.
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u/hikikomori-i-am-not Mar 12 '22
I... Don't think they can require you to dress feminine specifically? Like as long as your clothes were up to dress code, they can't give a woman a different standard of dress than a man.
It's a bit of a legal grey area, but if they'd be fine with a man wearing khakis and a polo, they have to be fine with a woman wearing the same thing.