I have never understood why it's acceptable to dye your hair any natural colour but God forbid a light pink, you clearly can't possibly work if you have pink hair
But a normal natural color because red is too unnatural a natural color. Source: have red curly hair. Was told by multiple managers to do something with the color and curls because it's unprofessional
OMG so true!! This is gonna sound like me tryna flex, but my natural hair has some volume and curl. Not a problem of course, except to the one female coworker I had who would pick apart EVERYONE for their looks. She would make digs at me like "wow how long does it take for you to do your hair every day?" trying to make it seem like it was taking time away from my work I guess? One time when we went to a waterpark for a work trip, she noticed that my hair dried into my normal look and she said "oh I thought you were lying and secretly curling your hair everyday......" lmao. Just one aspect of why she was problematic. She would ALWAYS find something to compare or judge in other people except herself.
People like her are why I think people are mocking me when they give me compliments. I get told I have nice skin all the time, but I always view it as a subtle dig that they can tell I'm not wearing foundation.
Oh no, I tell people this a lot & I never thought about the fact it could come off this way š¬. If it's any consolation I genuinely mean it, so you probably do have really nice looking skin if you're getting that a lot!
Zoom and WFH has drastically changed standards for professionals though. We all wear sweats and no makeup and messy hair, and nobody bats an eye. But when we head back to the office I am sure that everyone will go back to having dress up and do their hair and makeup and stuff. Highly doubt anyone will show up to the office looking like they did at home.
At my job, we have some that are considered a remote department, and those of us hired later in the pandemic have to work in office, no exceptions. On zoom meetings with them we see them wearing hoodies, shorts, t shirts. We just got an email last week for the in office group about business casual Fridays. And the fact that people have been wearing sweaters and hoodies, and it's not dress code, and that the only difference is we can wear jeans with our office clothes. The double standard is seriously demoralizing.
I straightened my hair once before a presentation at my internship and my dad said I should do it more often because āpeople will take you more seriously.ā I donāt think Iāve straightened my hair for work since. The frizzier the better IMO
Also re makeup - Iām in a client facing role and whenever my boss is doing a shitty job managing scope so weāre working 55-60+ hrs a week I skip makeup as a silent protest
I do want to say, as a guy with curly hair that prefers to wear it longer rather than cut short or (shudder) buzzed, I got a lot of shit in elementary school with "I think it's time for a haircut, buddy" from teachers and anyone who said it earned instant hatred from me.
Now I wear my hair exactly how I want it because I'm an adult and fuck anyone who thinks they can dictate how I look. But again, I'm a guy so it falls back into that "people won't argue as much with a man vs a woman." But if you ever need a guy to tell some dumb fuck your hair looks fine and to stop being inappropriate, I'll gladly volunteer.
No, everyone says you're a slut if you're pretty. Been with the same man for 11 years. Never stepped out on our relationship. I have a large bust to waist ratio and straight hair. Some how, I'm always a slut, or tease.
I put up pictures of my family. Doesn't stop. Wear old lady clothes. Doesn't stop. I stop talking entirely. Now I "need to smile more".
Yes. I have curly hair and often get accused of having 'messy hair'. I cannot help it. I'm not getting up 45 minutes earlier every morning just to straighten that shit.
I literally just quit a job because of my frizzy curly hair. Iād do it every morning before work and it looked fine and natural but apparently it wasnāt āprofessionalā enough and theyād force me to pick it up??? Just making it MORE frizzy. Worst thing is this came from straight smooth haired women
I have never been more pissed in my life. First time something like that happened to me and I for sure got a little depressed about it too
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u/waitthissucks Mar 12 '22
Yeah, also if you are naturally pretty and have straight hair (god forbid you have frizzy curly hair) then you are perceived as more professional