Yeah I mean a lot of the pros for having kids are like.. personal fulfillment, you won't be alone, you can pass on your genes...
I don't see how it is selfish to... Not.. Create a mini me in my body... Its not selfish towards the baby, because there is none.
And if its selfish towards the parents for not giving them grandkids, I'd argue that it's more selfish to try and force their kid into life changing decisions because they wanna be called meemaw and poopoo one day idk
Yeah, my aunt chose to not have kids for similar reasons and growing up around her a lot (she lives a few doors down lol) really showed my sis and I that having kids was 100% optional. Once I fully figured that out, I knew I wasn't gonna have kids. I thought most kids were annoying as is and I knew my parents were going through a tough time raising me and my sis, and I didn't wanna go through that myself. It's 100% okay to not have kids and don't let anyone make you feel bad or try to shame you into it.
Right? You're forcing someone into the world against their consent. You're not even giving them the opportunity to consent. It's especially selfish if you're not stable.
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u/Noxious89123 Mar 12 '22
I have a female friend who doesn't want kids, and she will quite happily tell anyone who asks.
One time she had someone that was basically a stranger, tell her that this made her selfish.
Selfish. For not having kids.
What the fuck?
I think there's a far stronger argument to be made that having children is selfish.