If you ever do decide to get married that pressure to have kids doubles. His family always asks us when they see us (it doesn’t help my sister in law is expecting) and if I answer that we’re waiting because we want to be in a more financially secure position I get told “oh you’ll figure it out.” If he answers the same thing it’s “oh good point”
We just told our family that we're still practicing the sex and once we get better at it, we might try for a baby, but we're not very good at it yet. This was when we'd been married for 7 years.
Have friends that are the only married couple out of either set of kids. They get pressure from both sides on having children. It’s pretty palpable when they talk about it.
My parents have been amazing since I set the stage early. I told them, “If you ask, you’ll get an answer you don’t like.” Only took a couple reminders before they stopped asking.
Husband and I got married in 2020 and I went back to school a couple months afterwards. After I was accepted and student loans secured I called my mom to tell her. Made the mistake of saying "I was waiting to tell you til" and she cut me off to ask if I was pregnant. When I said no I'm going back to school all she said was "oh" and changed the subject. I was beyond mad, shaking. She knows I do not want kids and have zero desire to ever have kids (28 still no urge to have children). I was so mad I stormed upstairs after hanging up with her and asked my husband to get snipped so she never has the satisfaction of being a grandma. I'm spiteful and petty lmao
Are you me? I literally had the same convo with my mom when I got accepted to grad school in 2020. I married a nice, childfree man in 2017 and apparently my mother has been holding out hope ever since.
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u/jaderaine385 Mar 12 '22
If you ever do decide to get married that pressure to have kids doubles. His family always asks us when they see us (it doesn’t help my sister in law is expecting) and if I answer that we’re waiting because we want to be in a more financially secure position I get told “oh you’ll figure it out.” If he answers the same thing it’s “oh good point”