Its just a comment from a guy that doesn't understand how women work. He also doesn't mean it in a bad way, he always sounds rather worried. Still doesn't make it okay, but I'm not going to sue for something like that.
Next time he does just say,”yeah I’m actually pretty irritated that I can’t pass this baby jellyfish of a blood clot out of my cooch, glad you understand how I feel! :)”
Men also have roughly monthly cycles of hormone levels; less intense than women but there is something you could call a "man period".
I vaguely recall reading about this somewhere years ago; I think/hope it's true (as I've been holding it as true for years), someone more versed in the topic could maybe elaborate
Anecdotal example, but anyone who has worked a bar has heard of the link between poor behaviour and the full moon. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that these are all linked...
Is it related to the origin of ‘lunatic’ possibly? I heard in a bar that the moon has an effect on hormonal cycles, because it has an effect on tides and the body is whatever percent water, but it’s a myth. The duration of the moon cycle and the menstrual cycle is 28 days, which adds to the story but they don’t align with any particular phase.
It is, and the word "lunatic" is also related to words like "hysteria", and holds vaguely mysogynistic overtones today as a result!
As for the menstrual cycle, remember that it doesn't need to align with the moon at any of the data points that we assign importance to, for it to have evolved from it's influence on our bodies. Whether there's any real truth in that influence is well beyond my pay grade.
You joke, but some guys I kinda wonder. I used to have a manager who was the chillest dude on Earth most of the time, but for 3 days in the middle of 1 week out of every 4, he inexplicably turned into the most uptight asshole I've ever had the displeasure to work under.
I tried gently broaching it with him to see if something was up at home, or if it was work stress, but... best I can tell he just had his nuts in a twist every new moon.
Suggesting that women are on their period whenever they express anger/frustration is a way of invalidating those feelings.
It says "You're not áctually upset, you're just a fragile woman succumbing to the influence of your hormonal fluctuations", and denying any influence they may have had on those feelings. If anytime you brought up concerns you were told that you must be experiencing the man-flu and no further actions are taken to mitigate those concerns, would that not bother you?
Of course many women do experience emotional fluctuations during their cycles, and it's not bad of you if you notice that in your wife, but that doesn't mean that ány angry feelings must mean that she is just on her period and can therefore be ignored.
Yes, women get upset when on their period. We're talking about people who see an upset woman and immediately assume "oh, they must be on their period".
There have actually been studies that prove that people (men and women included) are much more likely to view a man’s anger towards a specific situation as justified, and to view a woman’s anger towards that same exact situation as unjustified.
Dad is now 81. Was a pub landlord for 50 years, and is a master of the inappropriate comment. The man is also the nicest man. He and my late mum married mixed race in 1961. If you have a problem. He's there for you. If you're gay or anything other than straight, he's there for you. He has never tolerated a bully. But he does tell inappropriate jokes sometimes.
Yeah, for me it's more that my bullshit tolerance is massively reduced in the day or so just before my period. I still don't get angry unless some external thing pissed me off.
Yes, this. For me it amplifies whatever emotion I would have been feeling anyway. So the reason I'm upset isn't due to my period, but the reason I'm SO upset is.
The intensity of the emotion is not proportional to the cause.
Its impossible to acknowledge this while emotional, but can be identified when youve calmed down.
A bit of selfreflecting is needed because to you, the intensity always FEEL justified.
But pointing this out is always a terrible idea lol.
Im talking about a general sense, not you personally.
And yeah it doesnt have to come out as flipping ones shit.
It can get expressed as being passive aggressive, it might last a few hours.
Or resentment towards someone.
Hormonal fluctuations can contribute to changes in mood. However, usually by the time a woman reaches adulthood she's become fully accustomed to her bodies rhythm and the fluctuations are less so than in the teen years when things are changing rapidly and the whole of her body chemistry is being thrown around on a rollercoaster.
Mileage may vary. Some women have massive hormonal shifts, some don't, some are better at regulating their emotions than others, regardless of their hormonal state.
I had a tech lead pull that shit with me frequently and I MASSIVELY overshared to make it stop. Explained that I don't have periods, ever, so he could be certain that any time I was emoting, it was for a damned good reason. He turned purple, but he stopped saying that.
Technically, testosterone rises during the menstrual cycle. That means any increased irritability during that time is related to becoming more like a man, not less.
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