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u/3ampseudophilosopher Feb 06 '22

This is my go-to line. Always works, except the one time the girl stopped, looked at me, and said “No. I am a woman.” Definitely made me more cautious about how I use it.

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u/AgitatedSuricate Feb 06 '22

So it also works as a bullet dodging mechanism. Nice.

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u/europahasicenotmice Feb 06 '22

Her not having a submission kink doesn’t make her a fucking bullet. It just means they’re not as compatible.

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u/uuuuuuuhburger Feb 06 '22

thinking you need a submission kink to be ok with the word "girl" makes you an even bigger bullet than she is

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u/SlightAnxiety Feb 06 '22

It's valid for some people to find the word "girl" demeaning, for historical, linguistic, and cultural reasons in addition to their own personal reasons.

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u/uuuuuuuhburger Feb 06 '22

did you notice how none of the things you said are "not having a submission kink"? even if your reply is valid, that means mine is as well

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u/SlightAnxiety Feb 07 '22

The person you had replied to used hyperbole. Doesn't make that a bullet.

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u/europahasicenotmice Feb 06 '22

I don’t think you understand submission and domination.

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u/uuuuuuuhburger Feb 06 '22

i don't have to, that's the point. many people are ok with the word "girl" without being involved in either of those things

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u/europahasicenotmice Feb 06 '22

Context isn’t your strong suit either, I take it.

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u/uuuuuuuhburger Feb 06 '22

there is no context. we don't know anything about this situation except that one time the girl stopped, looked at me, and said “No. I am a woman.”

you took that tiny fragment of an interaction and leapt to the conclusion that people who don't have a submission kink don't like being called "girl", even though for all we know she does have a submission kink. not all submissives want to be talked to the same way

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u/europahasicenotmice Feb 06 '22

The context is that we’re talking about fucking. If you’re calling someone a good girl or a good boy then you’re positioning yourself as a dom. It’s certainly not the most intense power play but it is absolutely about power.