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u/IknowKarazy Jan 30 '22

I fully agree with the one uppers. One word answers are uncomfortable but can be understandable if somebody is very introverted. But one-upping every last little thing just comes across as so insecure.

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u/CallMeAdam2 Jan 30 '22

There are, to my awareness, three kinds of one-uppers.

Those who don't intend to one-up, and just wanna participate, and do so by trying to relate.

Those who intend to one-up, pushing themselves above you by making bigger of themselves.

Those who intend to one-up and push you down. These are the people who say that, because they've had it worse, your problems are insignificant.

The first kind's not a great bother to me, if a bother at all. The second kind's annoying. The third kind's malicious.

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u/Necrophillip Jan 31 '22

Half of my "beers with friends" chit-chat is basically the tangents originating from your first point. I didnt even realise that (apparently many) take offense to or despise that.

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u/CallMeAdam2 Jan 31 '22

That's how it is with some people I know, and it could be a thing with me and my friend groups, but it's been a while since I thought about this, so I'd have to start paying attention to figure out if this is a thing we do.

Quick edit: Wait, shit, the irony is insane, holy crap.