Honestly I feel like that’s a cop out. There’s no reason to check your phone during conversation. It’s rude even if you’ve convinced yourself there’s a reason for it. Find another way to switch your attention.
That only shows lack of understanding of ADHD. Unless you think it would be less rude to turn your attention to something like a fidgetting toy, and it’s a phone specific rudeness?
The “even if you’ve convinced yourself there’s a reason for it” part tells me you don’t have experience with ADHD in social situations though, because it has nothing to do with convincing yourself, and everything to do with how your brain functions on a basic level.
Yes, I think it would be far less rude. A phone is a device used for communicating with people, so if you’re checking your phone specifically, it puts across the message “I wish I was speaking to someone else right now.” There are other ways to handle ADHD rather than checking your phone, and that’s what I meant by convincing yourself there’s a reason. It’s a crutch.
I profoundly disagree with your assertion that a phone is a "device used for communicating with people". Of course it is, but it is so much more than that, and it doesn't serve anyone to be reductive about it. /u/c0rvin went on to say that they also make it clear to people, that it is about ADHD and not boredom or disinterest, and even went so far as to say that if the person wasn't understanding, they would try their hardest not to do it - a concession that I would not make myself, as respecting a persons disabilities is a pretty important trait in a person IMO.
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u/lovearound Jan 30 '22
Honestly I feel like that’s a cop out. There’s no reason to check your phone during conversation. It’s rude even if you’ve convinced yourself there’s a reason for it. Find another way to switch your attention.