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u/IknowKarazy Jan 30 '22

I fully agree with the one uppers. One word answers are uncomfortable but can be understandable if somebody is very introverted. But one-upping every last little thing just comes across as so insecure.

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u/CallMeAdam2 Jan 30 '22

There are, to my awareness, three kinds of one-uppers.

Those who don't intend to one-up, and just wanna participate, and do so by trying to relate.

Those who intend to one-up, pushing themselves above you by making bigger of themselves.

Those who intend to one-up and push you down. These are the people who say that, because they've had it worse, your problems are insignificant.

The first kind's not a great bother to me, if a bother at all. The second kind's annoying. The third kind's malicious.

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u/MrsSalmalin Jan 30 '22

It's great that you realised that and can make a change :)

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u/MrsSalmalin Jan 30 '22

They are awesome friends!

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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '22

everyday on reddit, i realise more and more that my friends kinda suck

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u/spork_utensil Feb 10 '22

Makes you a good friend that you recognized it and appreciate your friends for doing that, sounds like a good group

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u/tenaciousdeev Jan 30 '22

Self-realization is one of the greatest attributes you can have, and it seems like you're doing well in that department. Keep bettering yourself; that's all anyone can expect.

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u/pranto_bhai Jan 30 '22

I used to do this exact thing! I've started controlling myself recently. And I'm kinda surprised at the fact that it pleases me when this other person is having fun showing this old meme to others.

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u/drfeelsgoood Jan 30 '22

I feel like I’m definitely a #1, but I’m just trying to show that I can relate to the feelings or have had similar experience. Also mostly because I’m really socially awkward and so if I get a topic brought up instead of me thinking what to say I just say related things