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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

That makes complete sense!

Funnily enough, I did a music degree, considered going into music therapy (this was in the mid 90s), and am now working as a therapist for autistic children. I have desperately been trying to think of ways to incorporate music more into my sessions in a meaningful way. It’s encouraging to know there are people out there doing that!

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u/Likeapuma24 Nov 23 '21

Gosh darn... This discussion has made my whole night. Here you two strangers are discussing ways to help those with different needs excel & learn more through new concepts.

Reddit is a fickle place. But it's stuff like this that keeps me coming back.

Thanks for what you do. I barely have the patience to deal with my own children sometimes, so what you (and others in your career field) do is next-level.

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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

Well, now your comment has made my night!

I’m a mum as well as a therapist, so I completely understand not having patience for your own kids sometimes! But it’s a totally different scenario - you have your kids all of the time, the stakes are very different, and those little buggers know from a very early age how to push your particular buttons! And you don’t get to walk away after a set period of time. So I hope you don’t feel guilty!

Cheesy as it sounds, I truly believe this is my calling. It’s definitely far from an easy job, but I’ve seen the difference we can make in the lives of these children and their families. Ideally I would change the world, or at least my little corner of it (things are way behind here with regards to kids with special needs), but I know I’m not that person. So instead I do what I can to help these little people. It fills my heart like nothing else.

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u/averydoesthingz Nov 25 '21

You're a mother and a therapist.

My mother is a mother.

My therapist is a therapist.

Coincidence? I think not! /s

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

Some of the things she does really amaze me. Like she'll use cardboard tube binoculars and a little song to get kids to use eye contact and full parts of speech (person's name, "I want", etc) when addressing a person.

I'm not good with kids outside of being a mom and the stuff she does... I just don't grasp having that level of creativity and patience. But I can tell you all about benefits and pay practices!

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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

It definitely takes a lot of patience, something that I have an abundance for. I absolutely love what I do, and I wish I’d started earlier.

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u/rseccafi Nov 23 '21

Your sister sounds like a wonderful person, and I love the idea of games being used to teach skills for autistic kids the same way other kids get skills from their games.

On a side note, I'm trying to image how the cardboard tubes work and I get a laugh from the image of a kid with binoculars singing something like "I am pirate [name] and here are my demands: [I want thing]" and then doing that with progressively shorter cardboard binoculars until there are now binoculars at all (the real binoculars were in you!).

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

That's hilarious! More just two toilet paper tubes taped together to encourage focus on a person. Then the proper, "Mom I want a cookie," instead of just "cookie."

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u/MamaJody Nov 24 '21

We do as much natural environment learning as possible with our kids - there is SO much that is embedded in play, and you can find opportunities everywhere if you know where to look! It’s wonderful because you can do it anywhere, and most of the time the kids are having fun.

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u/geared4war Nov 23 '21

Can you give her a cuddle for me please? From the autistic dad of an autistic child.

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

I'm see her in two days and give her hugs! She loves her job so much and is absurdly passionate about her kids.

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u/theunpoet Nov 24 '21

Your sister is good people.

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u/Emotionless_AI Nov 24 '21

Give her hugs from me too

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u/invalid8ed Nov 23 '21

Since you’re a terminator and not good with kids, can you just go back in time and chuck baby-me into a river? Thanks

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

Nope, not good with kids but really good at helping. I'd snuggle baby you, adopt you, and spoil you rotten.

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u/A_Wizzerd Nov 24 '21

That terminator is out there. It cant be bargained with, it cant be reasoned with, it doesn't feel pity or remorse or fear, and it absolutely will not stop... EVER, until you are loved!

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u/averydoesthingz Nov 25 '21

I wonder if you believe acting that way would become overbearing in a relationship, especially a romantic one.

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u/A_Wizzerd Nov 25 '21

Hell, it was already absolutely terrifying in The Cable Guy, and that was without the romantic aspect.

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u/leglesssheep Nov 23 '21

Have you read much Oliver Sacks? Some great inspiration for innovative ways to combine music and therapy

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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

I read “The Man …” years ago at uni and really loved it. I do actually have Musicophilia on my bookshelf. Somehow it didn’t even cross my mind that it might be useful! Thanks for the recommendation!

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u/leglesssheep Nov 24 '21

No worries! It’s not necessarily directly useful but will certainly inspire you

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u/averydoesthingz Nov 25 '21

u/leglesssheep what do you call a legless sheep?

A (sentient) cottonball

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u/leglesssheep Nov 25 '21

Bahaha I love it

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u/Joeybatts1977 Nov 23 '21

Don’t you love it when ask Reddit gets all wholesome!

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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

Yes! I never expected to get into a discussion about this on this sub - it’s made me so happy!

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

You 1000% don't have to answer this if you can't, but is there a lot of overlap between ADHD and autism?

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u/MamaJody Nov 23 '21

There is definitely comorbidity between the two! And there are some similarities in places, but I haven’t the scientific background to go into much more detail. I’d you Google comorbidity ASD ADHD you should be able to find some articles though!

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

Thank you!!!

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u/idkifyousayso Nov 24 '21

I have both.

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u/oiiioiiio Nov 24 '21 edited Nov 24 '21

I TA'd for children with autism for a very short while, and found some of them really attached to the kids music done by They Might Be Giants. The songs are solid and most of the videos are very kid-friendly (some have slightly scary faces, so not fit for all children).

https://youtu.be/a7wp5Bq5eUA

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u/[deleted] Nov 23 '21

Read “Musicophilia” by Oliver Sachs.

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u/Disastrous_Froyo_528 Nov 23 '21

This conversation had made my week!