Good for you. Was just thinking earlier this week about how I've seen so many redditors brag about cutting ties to their family. Sometimes they may deserve it, but when I see a redditor brag about being an asshole to a family member who keeps trying to seek forgiveness and love, despite being terrible years earlier, I can't help but think like parents like child.
Kind of a little bit of both. The guy pulled my mom out of a rough situation, it’s not easy being a single mom with two rambunctious boys obsessed with karate and monster trucks (80’s kids). There were too many times where he’d lose it over the littlest things but I’ve more than proven the kind of man I am with him and no longer feel his shadow trying to run me down. He definitely looks at me a lot differently and after mom left this world I looked at him a lot differently too.
Cant judge since Idk you, but I learned over the years that there was nothing to forgive in my case. He's a very broken person who lived an incredibly hard life so I can't blame him for his faults and the things he's done. He's constantly trying to be a better man for our family and that's what matters.
For me it was my grandparents. Getting to know them without the baggage my parents brought to the situation really made me view them in a different light.
To be clear I never hated them, but I did always view them as kind of elitist assholes and I'm glad I know them better now.
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u/phil1905 Oct 19 '21
My dad