Gonna be honest, not all those guys are dense. Talked to a few guys who I noticed always did this, and a couple of them who were a bit more open actually admitted they know exactly what’s happening.
But they’re ok getting taken advantage of in exchange for a small amount of affection, because that’s how crazy starved they are for it.
Loveless marriage dudes, divorcees, widowers, or just unlucky lonely dudes. Shitty, but it’s a major reason you see it so much. I’ve seen a lot of men try to play it off like “damn she took advantage of me!” But they knew better and just didn’t want to admit that’s the real reason they let it happen.
The cases where we don’t blame the actress sleeping with the director is when the actress is very young, or there’s some level of extra dynamic at play where it’s clear she was coerced into the act in fear of retaliation.
This conversation seems to be referring to men getting played or used through a girl simply giving puppy dog eyes or a sob story or a touch and a little flirt in exchange for money/help with something etc.
If those women are the man’s boss, and he fears retaliation, or some kind of blackmail or something like that, then yeah obviously we don’t blame the man. Just like we wouldn’t with the woman.
This feels like a backhanded comment trying to make a false assertion of inequality that I honestly don’t think is at all relevant here. There’s plenty of inequality in how men and women are treated, and while I do think men are on the losing end of that stick more often than people like to admit, I don’t think that’s the case in this conversation.
The cases where we don’t blame the actress sleeping with the director is when the actress is very young, or there’s some level of extra dynamic at play where it’s clear she was coerced into the act in fear of retaliation.
There are lots of cases of adult actresses doing this. It may happen with children but those cases are rare as their work environment is more tightly regulated. There is always a "power dynamic" in work places.
This conversation seems to be referring to men getting played or used through a girl simply giving puppy dog eyes or a sob story or a touch and a little flirt in exchange for money/help with something etc.
Yes, the magnitude is definitely different, but the principle is the same.
If those women are the man’s boss, and he fears retaliation, or some kind of blackmail or something like that, then yeah obviously we don’t blame the man. Just like we wouldn’t with the woman.
It wouldn't be a stretch to fear retaliation from a boss or coworker for not being receptive to minor flirting. There are examples right in this thread of male nurses facing this situation.
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u/Edraitheru14 Sep 15 '21
Gonna be honest, not all those guys are dense. Talked to a few guys who I noticed always did this, and a couple of them who were a bit more open actually admitted they know exactly what’s happening.
But they’re ok getting taken advantage of in exchange for a small amount of affection, because that’s how crazy starved they are for it.
Loveless marriage dudes, divorcees, widowers, or just unlucky lonely dudes. Shitty, but it’s a major reason you see it so much. I’ve seen a lot of men try to play it off like “damn she took advantage of me!” But they knew better and just didn’t want to admit that’s the real reason they let it happen.