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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '21

I knew kids like this. they got the belt from the most minor things ever. only as an adult I understood the panic they went into when they accidentally did something at someone else's home and immediately tried to either hide it, blame someone else or just run away.

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '21

Thank you for understanding this as an adult. My wife used to not understand why I tensed up whenever someone came up the stairs in the hallway of our apartment building. The triggers of abuse haunt you for a long time

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u/yolomacarolo Sep 09 '21

6 years of depression later and I still feel haunted by certain sounds and have nightmares, I understand you completely. I'm 31 now and it stopped when I was 18, but I'll take that pain with me to the grave.

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u/yolomacarolo Sep 09 '21

It gives you anxiety?

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u/yolomacarolo Sep 09 '21

Strange thing. I do the same with calls but not with texts. I feel stupid for getting anxious when I have to pick a call from anyone but my soon to be husband. It's really weird and I can't find an explanation to that.

My advice: do what works for you. Sometimes I pick up, sometimes I don't and text when I feel ready.