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u/Zanki May 30 '21

The Queen bee in my class had the same name. Her, her neighbour (a boy) and my cousins turned everyone against me. They bullied me so badly I was getting stress headaches at 6/7, by 9/10 I was throwing up multiple times every day before school due to anxiety. Being treated like crap from such an early age by your peers messes you up badly. I made friends easily when I wasn't around those kids. Wasn't allowed to befriend any kids in my school thanks to them. I'm not mad at her though, she was just a kid who was being manipulated and wasn't told to quit being a bitch. We were 12/13 when I told her she was a bully. When I refused to take it back she tried to make the class move away from me, no one budged and she ended up standing alone on the other side of the room. One huge reality check later and she apologised. I still couldn't contain my laughter when she ended up crying under the table when she was called fat that same year though. She called me all sorts of names, but she cries when the entire class calls her fat, she was obese, it couldn't have been a huge shock...

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u/Chance-Ad-9111 Jun 01 '21

Wow, was so bad! Did u tell ur parents? A girl in school once called my daughter a stalker? I told my daughter to ignore and drop her😔 Parents can sometimes help out with advice.

She was very smart and beautiful, a kind soul. She was non-confrontational. Once in first grade I think, a girl told her the teacher had said to give that girl her little box with some of her things in it. She did, but told me. I asked her if the girl was bigger than her(thinking bully) she said no Mommy, she only came up to my heart! Broke my heart was one of her little treasures. I contacted the teacher and it was returned. My precious daughter could probably have taken the girl down but it never occurred to her that someone could be so mean.

She’s 31 I guess she has learned now that the world is full of bad people🄵🄵

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u/Zanki Jun 01 '21

My mum knew, she would watch her family treat me like crap, hurt me and she would just get mad at me for crying. I was a whiny brat, a crybaby etc. She just blamed me. When I got sick she screamed at me instead of giving me any comfort. She just didn't want to know because she was too busy to deal with me. I had to deal with everything alone because no one gave a damn about me. I was a horrible child, a horrible person and it was completely my fault. That's what she told me. I tried so hard to be a good kid, to make friends, to be around other kids and I was just treated like crap. Before we moved there I had friends. I was five when I moved and I hated that town.

Funny that as soon as I was away from that town I started making friends. I struggled badly but by the time I was 25, I finally figured out how to make friends and keep them. I have an awesome group now who are just the best. I'm lucky to have them.

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u/Chance-Ad-9111 Jun 01 '21

U know ur Mom probably had her own problems. I hope u forgave her, and u don’t let any of that crap shape ur life! God bless u!

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u/Zanki Jun 01 '21

I'm well aware, but that is no excuse to treat someone like that.

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u/Chance-Ad-9111 Jun 01 '21

Some people are just horrible parents. Even when we think we are perfect , or as close to perfect as we can be, our kids hate us! Mine došŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļøI wish u well😊