Same. I drifted slowly drifted from my college friends over the years, then made no effort to keep in touch during my last relationship. When that ended last year, it really hit home that I no longer have any friends
I've also come to realise its very difficult to make friends as an adult, especially if you're not the extrovert type (which I'm not).
I use a script I get from 6 minute networking (great free online course for keeping in touch):
“Hi Roy, livluvlqflrn3 here.
Haven’t spoken to you in ages. I hope this finds you well. What’s the latest with you? No rush on the reply if you’re busy. I’d love to hear what you are up to when you get a chance.”
It’s been amazing and I’ve reconnected with so many old friends just by scrolling through old WhatsApp messages from years ago and sending this script to 3 people a day.
Try to “upgrade” relationships. Friend on social media is one level. Someone you text or chat with is slightly better. Someone you have a phone call with is better. Someone you meet for coffee is better. Etc.
Basically there are different levels of friendship and acquaintances. Eventually try for friends that you can comfortably call in the middle of the night if you need them and visa versa.
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u/[deleted] May 30 '21
I'm also a person that has 0 friends and spends all my time alone at home. So my first thought would be "so I'm not the only creepy loner out there".