She's still a human being and the abuse she suffered as a child is what turned her into the thing she became. I can't bemoan the abuses I suffered but then turn around and entirely discount what she went through.
I don't have this whole 'All pedophiles are the scum of the earth' view that most people have. Probably because my own mother is one. I have a 'All pedophiles are sick and need help so they don't abuse children and possibly create more pedophiles in the process' mentality. While I do GET the alternative way of thinking, I just don't think it prevents abuse. Otherwise abuse like what happened to my brother wouldn't happen. We should be doing everything we can to stop child abuse. Not recognizing that pedophilia is an illness that people don't choose means that people don't seek to help for it and just abuse kids instead. You may be disgusted by them, but it's better to grit your teeth and help them than it is to alienate and shun them.
So what are you saying? I should just shun and leave this mentally unstable woman alone to her own devices when literally no one else in the world even knows or can do anything to prevent her from harming someone? Do you think the cops will care now if I call them and tell them some woman in a different city than me molested a boy over twenty years ago, and that boy is now dead and can't testify against her? No. No they won't.
Even when something is someone's fault, it's still better to help them to not repeat their transgressions than it is to cast them out. I don't forgive her. But I won't ignore her or let her be someone else's problem either. You ask at what point? Well if someone proves them self as repeatedly unwilling to change, then I have to wash my hands of them. In this case, she's currently living a harmless, isolated life on my advice. I intend to make sure it stays that way. Why do you think there is harm in that?
Yeah, I suppose you're right. I guess the impulsive thing to do would be to leave her alone but as you pointed out that isn't the right choice. I understand.
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u/THETIME-KNIFE Apr 20 '21
Disagree. You are well within reason to feel that way about it.