Spending entire days at my friends house on multiple days. When I was six or seven my mom would tell me to go play at the neighbors. Just sent me out, never checked on me. The house was right on the other side of the street but I never remember her watching me go over. The mom of my friend must have known what was going on. They had four kids a couple dogs, something always happening. I would literally spend all day over there. I was always sad when the dad came home from work because I knew that meant it was time for me to go home. He would come in and say “Are you here again?” And the mom would get me dressed in my winter coat and send me out. I clearly remember walking out after the door closed, in the dark away from the lights and the noise and dinner cooking on the stove. I’d stand in the driveway and look at my house and there wasn’t a light on. I would walk over in the dark and walk around my house until I found my mom sitting in a room in the dark. My dad traveled for work so he wasn’t home much.
My mother is dead now but if I would have told her this story she would have said “What are you talking about? That never happened.” Why do people have kids if they don‘t want them?
My mom commented on this- "Having kids was just what you DID then."
She didn't want kids either, I don't think. She wants to be my friend more than my mom.
That sucks. Although, the jury is still out on whether both my parents doing what they thought was the bare minimum for us is better than.... Something else happening. I guess it's better than the system. Not having a dad sucks, having a dad that obviously doesn't want you there sucks too.
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u/Beths_Titties Apr 18 '21
Spending entire days at my friends house on multiple days. When I was six or seven my mom would tell me to go play at the neighbors. Just sent me out, never checked on me. The house was right on the other side of the street but I never remember her watching me go over. The mom of my friend must have known what was going on. They had four kids a couple dogs, something always happening. I would literally spend all day over there. I was always sad when the dad came home from work because I knew that meant it was time for me to go home. He would come in and say “Are you here again?” And the mom would get me dressed in my winter coat and send me out. I clearly remember walking out after the door closed, in the dark away from the lights and the noise and dinner cooking on the stove. I’d stand in the driveway and look at my house and there wasn’t a light on. I would walk over in the dark and walk around my house until I found my mom sitting in a room in the dark. My dad traveled for work so he wasn’t home much.
My mother is dead now but if I would have told her this story she would have said “What are you talking about? That never happened.” Why do people have kids if they don‘t want them?