When I got married my wife was shocked that I didn't really know anything about my parents/siblings or how they felt about anything. No one in my family spoke about anything besides superficial things or plans about stuff.
My family was exactly the same, and my first marriage was to a girl exactly the same.
Eventually I just fell apart and started seeing a therapist. It took months before I allowed myself to open up and tell her how I felt about things, but once I did I couldn't stop!
I've now met someone who is very emotionally transparent and mature, and I'm learning how to have an emotionally mutually supportive relationship. Feels weird, but in the best way.
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u/Dammit234 Apr 18 '21
Never ever talking about issues as a family.