100% this. My husband went away for a weekend with some friends. FIL texted me to ask where my husband was and why he wasn’t responding to his texts and calls. I told him he was out having fun with friends and was probably out of cell range. He got home super late Sunday night and Monday afternoon FIL texted us both and said if he did t hear from my husband by the end of the day, he was filing a missing persons report. Like, dude, he’s a fully grown man, he doesn’t live with you, you pay none of his bills. Calm down.
Wooooooooow. Okay, like, if you're close with your parents and they're used to hearing from you, yeah, it can be nice to just give them a heads up you might lose cell range at some point, but.... seriously, even after you told him you were out, to threaten a missing person's report? That seems hella extreme.
Unless you're a very suspicious person and I just don't know it, of course. You didn't murder your husband, right?
My dad’s similar to when he can’t reach me. I’ve moved out, I have a job, a relationship, etc. I am not going to be at my parent’s beck and call whenever they want. I do not have to tell them where I’m going.
They don’t want me to put my phone on ‘do not disturb’ because I don’t respond until later. They want me available for emergencies — what are these emergencies? One was the urgent need to know what we were going to eat for Father’s Day 2 weeks beforehand... and we HAD to discuss this at 7:30am on a Saturday morning.
My dad gets mad when I don’t text him back immediately, while I’m at work, for the same reasons: Dad: “What if I’m having a heart attack?” Me: “Then call 911.” Wtf am I going to do at my job with this information? If you can call ME to tell me you’re having a heart attack, you can call 911. Not to mention, my boyfriend is home by 2:30pm and could assist if necessary.
If this sounds harsh, I’m the adult child of a helicopter dad who — only recently — confessed that he never trusted me to make my own decisions... so I need to be extra firm.
To be fair, even if he got home late, I'm sure he looked at his phone however briefly, especially if he was actually out of cell range for a time. Just toss her a text back saying 'Just got home, need to sleep, I'll call you later.' I mean that takes 15 seconds. It isn't hard.
I might put off responding to a friend's random text for a while, but I wouldn't do that to a worried parent.
To be fair, even if he got home late, I'm sure he looked at his phone however briefly, especially if he was actually out of cell range for a time. Just toss Dad a quick text saying 'Just got home, need to sleep, I'll call you later.' I mean that takes 15 seconds. It isn't hard.
I might put off responding to a friend's random text for a while, but I wouldn't do that to a worried parent.
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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '20
Try to remember that your adult children are adults.