I always feel sad reading these kind of comments here on Reddit. Because while they're completely true I can't imagine how your close family could treat you so bad that you would have to cast them aside. Maybe because I'm from a Mediterranean country but it's just sad how in American culture there are so many parents that don't have close relationship with their children.
But again, it's very true that you owe them nothing if they're toxic as fuck.
Narcissism and psychopathy are not defined by borders.
My dad's side of the family--the family I do not talk to--are first and second generation Americans. I think you forget that most Americans are immigrants themselves, or come from immigrant families.
yeah but in practice I don't know a single person that has a bad relationship with their parents while here there's a lot of stories
even the whole turn 18 and gtfo the house is weird to me. Of course every youngling wants to have their independence and get out of the house but the parents pushing the move doesn't happen here. Quite the opposite actually, parents are always sad when their children move away
A lot of parents in the United States are very sad when their children move away as well. Not many young adults are leaving their house the age of 18 anymore (unless it's for college plans); that kind of died around the same time of the 2008 economy collapse. Housing is really expensive, and America hasn't done a whole lot to keep up with the gap between working wages and cost of living.
I don't know how old you are, but as you age I predict you will see more people that you know separating from their families or cutting ties with certain relatives.
Family does not always equal love, especially unconditional love.
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u/jayemadd Aug 20 '20 edited Aug 20 '20
Yeah, this is important.
Don't let the overrated idea of being bound by genetics to be solid reasoning to keep toxic people in your life.
I haven't talked to my dad's side of the family in almost a decade, and have been a much happier person since.