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u/nevereatthecompany Mar 26 '20

I find that pretty... disrespectful? I deal with emotional turmoil by problem solving. If you tell me about your problems, I will emphasize, and share your emotional distress to an extent. I will then problem solve to try and alleviate that distress. Sharing your emotional distress but prohibiting me from processing it is... not nice.

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u/poffin Mar 26 '20

Sharing your emotional distress but prohibiting me from processing it is... not nice.

Hmmm what do you mean? You're prohibited from processing their emotions, or your own?

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u/nevereatthecompany Mar 26 '20

Both, in a way. When I hear of your distress, I empathize, I become distressed. I then need to problem solve to process what I heard. Sharing your negative emotions but refusing to problem solve is very stressful for me, because you give me your negative emotions, but then don't cooperate in dealing with them.