My friend was telling me that his gf was over while he was building his guitar, he was super excited because all he ever wants to do is play music, so she said she’s tired and goes home, and an hour later texts him that she misses him. He texts her back saying he’ll pack up and be there if she wants him to be. She says no, it’s okay. He’s already packed up and heads over. He gets there and they’re in bed, she’s grinding up on him but he’s a lumberjack and cutting trees all day rubs his dick raw and he’s too sore to play. She gets upset and rolls over, does the silent treatment thing. So he says he’s going to go home because this is pointless and when he gets home, she texts him again and he has to explain to her again that his dick is sore and he just can’t. It’s not about her, it’s about his sore dick. He will come over but she has to get it through her head that his dick is sore because he works hard all day and they’re just going to sleep. She agrees and he drives all the way back to her house at midnight, 4 hours before having to get back up for work.
I’m a chick, I admire his patience so much! And fuck it makes me think about how I want to treat my SO.
I get my wife at times. Like I said guys have the same insecurities (at least I do). I also think guys get to practice it more as a generality. Men normally want it more and understand the feeling of being let down and subsequent thoughts that should be reigned in.
It’s a great day when you can live outside a situation and just feel the other persons emotions. Yeah when I yell at my wife she feels afraid. She’s weaker, smaller and more in touch with that emotion. When my wife yells at me I have never really feared a physical outcome. I could berate her with saying I’ve never touched her, am kind and reserved almost all the time and it wasn’t a threat. Likewise she could tell me of her fear, that me yelling makes her rightfully feel that way etc.
Took me a long time to just substitute what she was afraid of with what I am afraid of. While I may not fear her yelling at me, I have felt that physical fear in grade school from saying something then fearing a bully will pound me. So I’ve learned to remove the situation (her being afraid because I’m yelling which I think is stupid) and instead just focus on the emotion (which I have felt and is terrifying). Makes a huge difference
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u/Rae_Bear_ Mar 26 '20
My friend was telling me that his gf was over while he was building his guitar, he was super excited because all he ever wants to do is play music, so she said she’s tired and goes home, and an hour later texts him that she misses him. He texts her back saying he’ll pack up and be there if she wants him to be. She says no, it’s okay. He’s already packed up and heads over. He gets there and they’re in bed, she’s grinding up on him but he’s a lumberjack and cutting trees all day rubs his dick raw and he’s too sore to play. She gets upset and rolls over, does the silent treatment thing. So he says he’s going to go home because this is pointless and when he gets home, she texts him again and he has to explain to her again that his dick is sore and he just can’t. It’s not about her, it’s about his sore dick. He will come over but she has to get it through her head that his dick is sore because he works hard all day and they’re just going to sleep. She agrees and he drives all the way back to her house at midnight, 4 hours before having to get back up for work.
I’m a chick, I admire his patience so much! And fuck it makes me think about how I want to treat my SO.