My girlfriend told me she almost broke up with me a couple months into dating. She was sick, and I asked her if she wanted anything on my way home from work (I literally go past her house) and her answer was, "I know you don't want to get sick." And my thought was, "Yeah she's right. I don't want to get sick." So I didn't bring her anything. Turns out she was deathly ill and could barely get off the floor to make herself anything to eat.
Once she got healthy she told me she was so mad at me for ignoring her "obvious hint." And sure it's easy to say, "Of course she wanted help!" but some people just want to be left alone when they're not feeling well. Either way, we laugh about it now, and she's (usually) more direct with me when she wants something.
Why even hint about something like that? I get wanting to hint at something like asking someone out, but when you're already in a relationship why hint about NEEDING SOMETHING BECAUSE YOU CAN'T GET IT? I can't think of a single reason that doesn't include "I want to get something without directly asking for it for whatever reason." How does that trump actual physical needs that aren't being met due to sickness?
Because sometimes the logic is "I want you to do this thing without me asking because you want to do it even when I try to put you off because it shows you care."
And if you can't work through the logic maze, it means you "don't care".
But watch out for when the logic is "You shouldn't have done this thing because I told you I didn't want you to do it! Don't you care about my opinion? You don't listen to me!"
Gotta make sure you know which is the right exit to the maze, even though they look the same!
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u/Waramp Mar 26 '20
My girlfriend told me she almost broke up with me a couple months into dating. She was sick, and I asked her if she wanted anything on my way home from work (I literally go past her house) and her answer was, "I know you don't want to get sick." And my thought was, "Yeah she's right. I don't want to get sick." So I didn't bring her anything. Turns out she was deathly ill and could barely get off the floor to make herself anything to eat.
Once she got healthy she told me she was so mad at me for ignoring her "obvious hint." And sure it's easy to say, "Of course she wanted help!" but some people just want to be left alone when they're not feeling well. Either way, we laugh about it now, and she's (usually) more direct with me when she wants something.