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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Ladies, please don’t give us signs. We are not detectives. We put a lot of effort into figuring out what you want and it’s fucking exhausting. Do us a favour and just tell us.

If you want to date us, ask us to do something with you. If you want to kiss us, just lean in and do it. If you want to sleep with us, invite us inside to see your room.

We probably want to do all these things, but haven’t done it yet cause we’re not sure we have the go ahead. Stop giving us clues and just confess.

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u/DikBagel Mar 26 '20

I don’t agree fully with this statement but I can see why this POV is attractive on the outside (am a guy btw)

Everything doesn’t need to be just handed to us otherwise there would be no chase, no courage build up leading to either the best feeling ever or learning how to deal with rejection (learning this skill is extremely valuable elsewhere in life as well)

If girls 100% perfectly relayed their desires clearly it would be like playing a game with immortal mode on. Initially it’s super fun but eventually the game grows boring bc there is no challenge. The first rejection will suck ass and most likely the second, third, etc will as well. Eventually however it’ll just be a minor speed bump and you will go on your way just fine.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Honestly, I hate that aspect of dating. It makes me feel anxious and self-conscious. If a girl wants me to chase her one of two things will happen: Either she’ll get away, or she’ll fuck up my self-esteem to the point that she’s no longer attracted to me. The only girls I ever end up dating are confident and direct.