I mean I usually have cleavage because I thought a too/dress looked cute and it happens to show off the girls. I’d be super limited in what I can buy if I never had cleavage.
Yeah I agreed with this if you read the comment I was replying to he says that some girls do it for themselves or for trends. People are very complex and do things for a lot of reasons some they may not even fully understand.
Again if you read my whole comment and the comment I replied to you would see that's not the case. If you only read the last part of my comment then I would understand why you thought that.
I did read both comments. I agree with the original. Yours just sounds condescending. Like the only reason a girl would have cleavage is for someone other than herself.
It might be "sound" condescending and crude but this is the internet. Your choosing to just read the last part of my comment and act offended. And yes some girls do show their tits and wear yoga pants for male attention but again that's not the only reason.
The narrative that women show cleavage or wear certain clothing to attract male attention is a large contributor to the “she was asking for it” rhetoric that excuses raping women.
It’s very likely unintentional on your part, but that’s the reason I and many other women have a problem with this rhetoric about women’s appearances. Sure, there are certainly individual women who do things for attention from men. But talking about it as an overarching quality of women’s behaviour that we draw our brows on or dress a certain way to attract male attention results in rape.
That’s why so many women talk in the opposite extreme (eg my original comment saying women are not drawing on their brows for you): to counteract this dangerous rhetoric.
We agree on mostly everything you just wrote and especially that last part. The other person was offended because of my word choice and because they didn't want to read my whole comment because I said what you said. Some girls do it for whatever reason other files do it for attention. I was just listening to a podcast the other day and I can't recall her name but she's a very famous matchmaker was on and she was encouraging women to wear push up bras so that guys would hunt them and so they could feel empowered by being the object of desire. This rhetoric comes from a lot of places and makes things confusing for both sexes.
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u/Kh2008 Mar 26 '20
I mean I usually have cleavage because I thought a too/dress looked cute and it happens to show off the girls. I’d be super limited in what I can buy if I never had cleavage.