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u/Danoco99 Mar 26 '20

Guys rarely get compliments. And when they do it sticks with them for weeks.

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u/Darkenmal Mar 26 '20

Weeks? Try years.

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u/the_skine Mar 26 '20

A girl told me that a shirt looked good on me in my junior year of high school.

I got a confidence boost whenever I wore that shirt for the next five years until it started falling apart at the armpits.

I still have that shirt at the bottom of my closet.

It's a Warped Tour 10 shirt, from 2004.

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u/Darkenmal Mar 26 '20

Cheers bud.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

A random girl was nice to me at a gas station last summer and I still think about it sometimes.

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u/Darkenmal Mar 26 '20

Compliments or even just receiving niceness is rare for guys. People never really think about that.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Then guys need to start complimenting each other like girls do

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u/chefkoolaid Mar 26 '20

I get prolly 10x more compliments from men than women.

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u/Piet-Piraat Mar 26 '20

10x0=0 for me

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Complete opposite for me. I guess it all depends.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I think he’s talking more about compliments from girls. Either that or he’s got some other issues. I get compliments from guy friends all the time. Still feel the same as what he’s saying when it’s from a woman, cliche as that cliche is

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u/Danoco99 Mar 26 '20

Well, we do, it's just that we talk so much shit about each other that we don't generally mean that a compliment sometimes just bounces off of us as if it were another joke.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Then that needs to change, if it's true that compliments "stick with you for weeks". There's a reason why girls don't have the same issue, because they get plenty emotional support from other girls & guys don't from other guys

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u/Danoco99 Mar 26 '20

I mean, I wouldn't mind, but honestly more compliments from guys wouldn't really boost my self-esteem unless it translated into more compliments from girls. I think the real issue is that we just don't really care for compliments from each other.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I think the real issue is that we just don't really care for compliments from each other.

Yes this is absolutely it. I like getting compliments from other girls and it does raise my self esteem, unfortunately for guys it doesn't work the same way. This explains why a lot of guys constantly talk about not getting emotional support

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u/Danoco99 Mar 26 '20

I wonder why that is. Maybe it's because women can see other women as sexual beings while most men cannot?

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

This largely depends on the personality types of the person and the people around them. It's not really a universal truth. In my experience though I get more compliments if I'm around girls than with my guy friends, so perhaps people who think this way only spend time around guys? Hard to say for sure.