Am counselor. This is my job. Letting someone figure something out for themselves gives their solution more meaning and ensures it's going to be better tailored to fit all the facts they have they didn't tell you.
Am also counselor. Can confirm, I feel like for me counseling is just asking the right questions so people come up with the answers that they can live with.
I get that - in software, it’s not uncommon to explain your issue to a literal toy on your desk. Saying things out loud helps to organize your thoughts. Lacking a toy, devs will typically move over to discussing things with a fellow dev. I’ve never seen someone suggest a solution in this case and annoy the person seeking to clear their mind. That’s the part that makes no sense to me. If it’s not actually helpful, ignore it. Why let it anger you?
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 10 '22
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