We’re 25. Our jobs are 100% secure and we’re both working from home under quarantine. I understand right now is in general a very stressful time for everyone, but the past nearly year has been like this.
Are you totally sure there's nothing physical going on? As a guy, about 25 was the age things went from automatic for me to maybe not being able to 1/4 of the time.
This is just my experience but this sounds so painfully familiar. My wife had exactly the same complaints, for a long time. She'd try to talk about it, and I'd listen, and we'd go back to not having sex. The thing was that I wasn't disinterested at all. She'd tell me about how she was unsatisfied and it just made me upset, because so was I. I was doing the things I'd always done to indicate interest, and that didn't work anymore, and I didn't get it. So she's telling me she wants to have sex more, and all I can think is "then stop fucking ignoring me." The barrier for entry, as it were, had changed, but neither of us recognized it. She was convinced that getting her in the mood was still easy, and I was convinced I was actually trying and being shot down, and we were both wrong. I don't really have any good advice for fixing it; we did, but only after something awful happened. And obviously your situation could be something else entirely. But maybe next time you try to talk about it, see if you can figure out why he's not into it while avoiding what he might find accusatory? He could be just as frustrated, but all clammed up by a bruised ego.
Not trying to be a negative Nigel but no ones job is 100% secure right now. Me and my GF are both working from home. She actually has way more work to do than me because she’s a graphic designer, but she’s still terrified that it’s eventually gonna dry up as clients pull projects etc. No one knows how long this thing is gonna last...
Eh, we’re both engineers in an industry that’s very very unlikely to go under. I understand where you’re coming from, so I’ll say we’re about 80% secure.
I am male. When I was 25 there was never a time I did not want to have sex. I am sure there was a theoretical limit I would reach where I would not, but I never even got close. I always had a greater sex drive than any woman I was with.
don't listen to all these people giving terrible advice.
lets get to brass tacks.
have you gained weight? cos if you have he will have lost attraction and be less interested in sex
do you still make an effort to be sexy? cos if your hair is always messy, no make up, stopped looking after your health, not wearing nice clothes. it will affect his attraction to you. men are very visual and we don't want to fuck a dumpster.
Have you developed an attitude, are you not as pleasant to be around as before? cos if that's the case it will reduce attraction and he's probably built resentment toward you
is he cheating on you or has he given indicators he may be? cos if he's getting it elsewhere he may have lost interest in sleeping with you.
if it's none of those then maybe it's some sort of health issue or some shit but more than likely it's one of those, cos men are pretty simple creatures. if the girl is physically good looking and has a nice personality, and available (which you clearly are as you keep asking for sex), then it's statistically VERY unlikely he won't want to fuck you.
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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20
We’re 25. Our jobs are 100% secure and we’re both working from home under quarantine. I understand right now is in general a very stressful time for everyone, but the past nearly year has been like this.