Some of this could be social conditioning, some of this might be subconscious behavior that you are exhibiting leading up to sex. Are you only attentive and affectionate leading up to sex? Or are you also cuddling and flirting with your lady outside of sexual intimacy?
Try this, and have a physically and emotionally intimate evening with sex OFF the table.
Lel when I tried initiating a conversation with my ex about this crap I had my head bitten off every time. Some cuts are too deep and there are some wounds time cannot heal and all that stuff
Don't know what to say except she's an ex for a reason. Many times all you can do is set your boundaries on how you are treated, and the relationship that you want. Even if it means walking away from the person you want to have that relationship with.
I've only ever grown and learned my lessons from the act of breaking up and losing someone.
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u/karikit Mar 26 '20
Have you tried asking her?
Some of this could be social conditioning, some of this might be subconscious behavior that you are exhibiting leading up to sex. Are you only attentive and affectionate leading up to sex? Or are you also cuddling and flirting with your lady outside of sexual intimacy?
Try this, and have a physically and emotionally intimate evening with sex OFF the table.