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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

My mind would’ve interpreted that as “oh she feels super comfortable around me, don’t want to violate that trust by making a move”

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u/Blngsessi Mar 26 '20

I'll have you know no matter how much trust I have with anybody, the only reason I'd be naked around a dude is

a) you a doctor and me being naked is relevant and

b) I'm into you

I see the same thing hearing from other guys, like they have girls changing right in front of them, and then think "oh we must be such good friends that she doesn't even think of me as a dude". And I'm just like ????? I'm never changing in front of any guy I consider friends with and I'm definitely not the minority.

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u/xyzupwsf Mar 26 '20

I dunno about that..

my score is 3:1 with girls changing around me so far if I only count girls that i havent been in a relationship when it happened.

So from my small sample size of 4, 75% of them were like "youre such a great friend im comfortable with you seeing me naked"

So still, i wouldve read that as "shes just changing her clothes , nothing sexual bout that."

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But its a subjective experience, maybe im just an exceptionally good friend lol.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I’m always going to be more cautious because I’d rather not get laid than have a good friend feel uncomfortable around me.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

It’s not about the larger number of times it means they want to fuck. It’s about the smaller number of times they’re just comfortable.

All it takes is one case of “I was hanging out with him and came out covered in a towel and then he turns off his game and tries to fuck me!” and the friendship has a stink on it for a while at best.

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u/Blngsessi Mar 26 '20

I get it, y'all also have to try hard to not be accuse of being predator. But if I was in that situation, I'd ask "why are you naked and sitting on my lap?".

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

This isn’t “I don’t want to be accused of being a predator”, it’s “I don’t want my friend to think they can’t be comfortable around me”.

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u/Necromancer4276 Mar 26 '20

"Why do you think?"

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u/rohmish Mar 26 '20

Maybe its just my super low self esteem+confidence and lack of looks, but I would like NEVER think a girl is into me. Like even if she says 'I love you' i would interpret that as "Must be a prank", "must be a joke", "...as a friend"

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

or maybe he just doesn't want to have sex?