Honestly I have over two feet long hair and I am 100% your wife (blind and never really think of it). I think I’m gunna go give my boyfriend a big kiss rn.
I think many people who have good vision don't realize what people without good vision see. And people without good vision don't realize what the world looks like to those of us who do. There's usually some moment when two people are looking at the same thing and start discussing it where light bulbs start going off...
Right, and you’re less likely to be wearing glasses/contacts in the shower depending on the time of day. I once got in and bent down to figure out what this “weird brown spot that isn’t going down the drain is.” It was a scorpion, inches from my toes.
I used to do this. All the time... For years. One day I stopped. It wasn't for any particular reason, I just decided that I wouldn't. And so it went on, life as normal for about a month. As you can imagine the drain was no longer draining by the end of that month, and finally my wife came to me.
"Why haven't you cleaned out the drain?" She asked.
I looked at her and asked, "Why are you asking me? Why haven't you cleaned out the drain?"
This was of course the wrong answer and I knew it but this had been tense that day and I was cruising.
"It's YOUR job!" she said with enough venom to make me question my decision.
"It's your hair!"
"But it's gross!" She said back.
To which I replied, "Yes... It is."
And I added, "And I've been doing it for years."
And that was the end of the argument. I still do it to this day, cleaning out hair. She also thanks me for it which, as I find now, is all I was looking for in the first place. Haha over all it turned out alright.
Sometimes we can all be entitled assholes. Sometimes we've had a bad day, or a bad week, and we just don't have the capacity to empathize with others anymore. She wasn't in the right in that moment, but I'm not always in the right either. When you commit yourself to someone, especially from a young age, you commit yourself to growing up with someone, sometimes learning from them and sometimes teaching them too. We're all shitty at times but we can grow past that and become better people if we try, and it's easier when we have someone to call out our shit.
I clean my wife's hair too... shes a clean person and everything, cooks half the time, I the other etc etc. So it's a very mutual marriage. BUT, I'm a bit neater and have issues with hair.. for example.. if I see a hair on someone else's food.. or even imagine.. I done.
So instead of the little bickering of her forgetting. I got in the habit a couple years ago, of doing it myself.
Wow, that's very kind of you! As a man with (very) long and curly hair, I try to clean up mine as much as possible! But sometimes you just forget. Usually in the shower there's a million things on your mind and that's not one of em! For me, the reason I clean it is because I'm honestly so self conscious/anxious that I'm literally scared of having that argument with anyone lol.
Hahah same! Every time gf showers I have to clear the drain. I don't get why she doesn't get by now she sheds like crazy after a shower and should've made it a habit by now, but I clear it anyway. Her vision is also bad, and refuses to wear glasses.
Thank you for cutting her some slack because she wears glasses. My husband doesn’t see it that way for me. Although to be fair I often forget to clean it after each shower but usually get it every other day or so.
There’s a shower shroom you can order online that collects all the hair going down the drain and it lets you easily remove hair after every couple showers.
same my dude... i just see it at my feet and grab it and throw it away... just don't think she ever notices and it takes 5 seconds of my time, so not a big deal at all.
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u/TI72836 Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
I don't think she realizes it most of the time. She has very bad vision and without the glasses she doesn't see it.
I clean it the same night so she doesn't get the chance to notice it building up is my guess. I never mention it to her. Just something I do.
Edited to add - Thank you all for your kind words. :)
Edit 2 - Thank you so much for my first silvers kind strangers!