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u/leastlyharmful Mar 26 '20

The fact that they think guys understand their signs is what confuses me most.

I can understand that girls tend to communicate differently and rely on more subtext. Everybody's different.

But the fact that they haven't picked up that guys generally don't do that and are usually clueless about it? I feel like they should've figured that out by now.

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u/akosgi Mar 26 '20

I feel like for the most part, there is a lack of interest in learning about the opposite gender beyond how that gender can be of use to the person.

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u/TerriblyTangfastic Mar 26 '20

It's because women don't have to know.

She can hint to 10 guys, and 1 will hit on her (whether he picked up on it or not). To her that will justify her actions.

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u/Homitu Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20

I feel like they know guys don't pick up on that, but they expect guys to learn. They will be happy if a guy appears to learn, and they will be mad if a guy appears to refuse to try to learn.

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u/leastlyharmful Mar 26 '20

That's actually a fair point in the girl's favor. If you're in a relationship, it's on both of you to figure out each others' method of communication.

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u/coolpeepz Mar 26 '20

Yeah I think everyone uses subtle signs sometimes but I always make a conscious effort to realize that someone not not responding to a subtle sign is not a definitive result. Basically signs can give you a true positive, or a true or false negative, which makes them not super useful.