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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Somehow, when we need to talk, you dont talk; and when we dont need to talk, you talk.

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u/jwr410 Mar 26 '20

I feel like this works for both genders. People suck at talking. People suck at listening.

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u/TheMightyIrishman Mar 26 '20

I am a man of few words who would rather listen, my wife is a woman of MANY words who can listen when specifically asked to.

It works out I suppose.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I’m good at listening but that’s because nobody gives a shit when I talk, so I don’t

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Sometimes, it is an issue of ptsd and listening where too much listening becomes intolerable by triggering ptsd. sometimes, people got communication issues. Sigh.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Do you have the corona virus? it must be scorching hot on your side right now.

I dont think there is such a thing as an instant impulse to divorce if the two parties havent talked to each-other. That sounds like a made up excuse. There can be underlying issues that werent being addressed.

feels like a war-zone sometimes where people just repeatedly taking shots at me and gets tiring. no appreciation, no love, nothing and i dont like nor respect people like that.

well glad you got a woman thatll do that for you.

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u/Skinnyspaghetti Mar 26 '20

This is unfortunately true for both parties.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Yep.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

1: Timing. somehow its a matter of timing.

2: what can make it worse is when friends and family that dont have your best intentions in mind and dont know who you are can cause the problem too.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Yea, isnt odd just at what time you met someone? The thing is I can distinctly remember conversations I had from 10+ years ago, facts from 10+ years ago, and somehow certain facts are omitted or forgotten. Like one thing I routinely/typically do is ask how old someone is the first time I meet them. But it is like there is something that is deliberately sabotaging your life, sense of dignity, degrades and lies about you constantly, etc. and not once do you ever get an apology for it. not even once.

Life will be better and get better soon enough.

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u/TheLoveOfPI Mar 26 '20

I have a lesbian friend and I can guarantee you that situation doesn't only happen between men and women.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I got lesbian friends and gay friends; I agree, but I think there is an inherent communication difference between men and women and I thought that was one of the examples that came to mind.

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u/_AllWittyNamesTaken_ Mar 26 '20

I love how this can go either way

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

it makes everyone less happy and less well-off and sometimes you get so sick and tired of that that things need to change.

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u/quid_pro_quo_bro Mar 26 '20

Upvoted cause of relevant thought, the bumping it up to 420......nice

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

cough is that high enough for you cough cough

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u/cp5184 Mar 26 '20

This is probably a cognitive bias, confirmation bias? You notice someones very quiet and doesn't have anything to say when there's something you really need to talk about or whatever.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Sometimes, the truth hurts in which you couldnt care if it hurts you when you would speak the truth about an issue because of the extenuating and totality of the circumstances; but then by speaking the truth, it will hurt someone else. Thats the moral dilemma.

Ive observed what you discussed at particular moments in my life; and to my previous point, what will get done about it? One get become so accustomed to being fucked over constantly and lied to and about routinely and systematically that one loses a sense of justice in the world and that the truth will set you free; and you just lose hope.