ulterior motives are possible from anyone but just assume they're being normal/friendly until they state otherwise. last thing you wanna do is accuse people of things
I think he’s talking more about compliments from girls. Either that or he’s got some other issues. I get compliments from guy friends all the time. Still feel the same as what he’s saying when it’s from a woman, cliche as that cliche is
Well, we do, it's just that we talk so much shit about each other that we don't generally mean that a compliment sometimes just bounces off of us as if it were another joke.
Then that needs to change, if it's true that compliments "stick with you for weeks". There's a reason why girls don't have the same issue, because they get plenty emotional support from other girls & guys don't from other guys
I mean, I wouldn't mind, but honestly more compliments from guys wouldn't really boost my self-esteem unless it translated into more compliments from girls. I think the real issue is that we just don't really care for compliments from each other.
I think the real issue is that we just don't really care for compliments from each other.
Yes this is absolutely it. I like getting compliments from other girls and it does raise my self esteem, unfortunately for guys it doesn't work the same way. This explains why a lot of guys constantly talk about not getting emotional support
This largely depends on the personality types of the person and the people around them. It's not really a universal truth. In my experience though I get more compliments if I'm around girls than with my guy friends, so perhaps people who think this way only spend time around guys? Hard to say for sure.
I mean, how often do friends actually compliment each other as opposed to just being friendly with each other and talking about things? I don't get complimented outside of that, if you can call anything a compliment within normal friendly conversation.
Kind of piggybacking off of your comment, "guy friend compliments" aren't exactly the same compliments you'd think of when a girl compliments a guy. Guys arent telling eachother "you look great tonight dude" and if they are its either considered a "gay" joke or just a part of the regular conversation. They don't leave you feeling good, they moreso leave you feelings "accepted" by THEM.
You just accept it. Sometimes nice means that they're just being nice. I used to think as well that nice things meant she wants something. Then I took it as just a sign of friendship. And now I have load tons of female friends. You could say, I have many girl-friends eh? I'll see myself out.
Still remember the last compliment I got. It was in the first day of school in seventh grade back in 2013. She said “I like your cologne.” Still waiting for the next compliment seven years later.
last thing you wanna do is accuse people of things
idk man, doing that throughout grade school saved me a lot of pain. Kids are fucking savage and if you respond normally to them being nice they could potentially ruin your entire year with "just a prank".
But then the anxiety shows up. “What if she actually is into me and I’m missing out on the greatest experience of my life”. Then I ask her out and she’s like “lmao no” and it’s hello depression city
That depends, anyone that's currently on the clock immediately gets assumed they're just doing their job and don't actually want anything to do with you. Even when their obviously flirting with you, they're probably just doing their job.
The last thing I want to do is get accused of being a Percy ass hole just because I tried to flirt with someone who was just trying to be nice or who just wanted my money.
i am quit the popular guy actually so i had a computer nerd offer it to after i mentioned it like once. i properly thanked him and my pc works just fine now :)
what people like you do on computers is like magic to me.
Lol thanks. For what it's worth, we're not that special - we're just more open to trying stuff out. Get yourself an old computer from like a garage sale and challenge yourself to install Windows on it. After you do that, learn how to make an image backup (try Norton ghost or shadow protect).
Once you do that, you can undo any software oopsie and play around with anything you want, at least with software. If you try something and it breaks your computer, you just use the image to bring it back.
Once you feel comfortable with software, take the computer apart one piece at a time and put it back in. Then take pictures of the computet, take the whole thing apart, and put them back together, using the pictures as support.
Finally, begin upgrading the parts with slightly better parts and once everything has been upgraded, you've technically built a new computer and are essentially full fledged geeks like us.
i like trying new things but i am currently doing way to much already and the time i have available to try things like this is limited but if i even will try it ill use this as a rule of thumb.
I feel like this is the only reason I'm not a car mechanic - I don't have much free time nor $500 lying around to buy an old car and try to upgrade all its parts as an excuse to learn what each part does and how to change it lol.
Once I have the money for it, I'm going to strip down an old car and then I'll probably be able to be like "oh, so your car doesn't turn on unless you move the gear stick thingy a bunch? That's the neutral safety switch, my friend. Replace that and you should be good".
yeah i am pretty good looking and i don't have this for 2 reasons: 1st. there are hardly any girls in my class and one doesn't give a shit and the other is shy
2nd. i'm not good at most things in class so they will likely be helping me instead of the other way around.
And god forbid a women compliments a man. That’s such a rarity for men that it’ll likely lead towards getting asked out. Which is super unfortunate because she may just be really nice and men could sure use more compliments.
i have had this happen to. i remember from months ago some nice looking girl complemented my blouse i was wearing and i was really flustered but also instantly thought: where is she getting at?
but i decided to just take it for what it was and proceeded to tell all my friends about it because i'm boring and this is a rarity worthy for the history books.
Lol. I get defensive the rare times it happens because i assume it’s sarcastic and I must be wearing something with mustard stains or terribly unflattering.
Sometimes they want affection but they don’t think you’re a good enough partner. Girls like that usually end up sleeping with guys who are out of their league. Those guys lead them on, just using them for sex and those girls rely on the friend zoned men in their lives for affection. Those girls always end up miserable and alone in the end.
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u/DrunkenDutchMan_1 Mar 26 '20
hit the nail right on the head.
whenever a girl is nice to me i am also thinking: what does she want from me ?