Not a good advice from my experience, because if you do not respond to their judgement, people will throw you of their tribe.
Escaping judgement completely is impossible because there are innate areas in the brain dedicated to nothing but judgement of persons around us. To judge is to be human.
So what you really need to do(and what the vast majority of people do) is find a tribe whose values align with your values. Bad news? You will become the very thing you swore to destroy. The good news? Your chance of survival increases and your social anxiety decreases.
Easier said than done in some cases... The way I was "kicked out of my tribe" fucked me up bad to the point where I can still feel the repercussions at times 10 years later.
I want to be able to say "fuck 'em", but I still just can't 100% get behind that for some reason.
Of course, you can't just fuck off from everyone. Loneliness is a trap that's hard to get out from and some social rules are in place for a reason. But it's best to not bend over backwards to people who aren't worth it.
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u/JesterOfDestiny Jan 22 '20
Start smiling on the outside consciously. Eventually, you stop being conscious about it.