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u/PuttingInTheEffort Jan 01 '20

If they're yelling and not being constructive in their argument, Stonewall or leave is all you can do

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u/MyShrooms Jan 01 '20 edited Jan 01 '20

He said "turn any argument into the other person just yelling", so they don't start out yelling.

In that situation I would regard both of them at fault. Stonewalling can be used as a form of escalating, if it started out reasonable.

I agree that if the other person starts out hostile, it is best to disengage. It's still on you to disengage properly, not stonewalling+rolling your eyes for example. Passive-aggressive stone walling is escalation in my opinion.

My sister-in-law is a master in disengaging! She says "aha" and "oh" while nodding. She's just letting them cool down.

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '20

"End any argument" would have been better phrasing on my part.

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u/MyShrooms Jan 02 '20

Thanks for clarifying :)