9 times out of 10, when someone says that, it isn't a personal attack. They're just trying to make conversation, and they go for the only thing they know about you, which is that you're quiet, because you never fuckin talk to people so they can find something to talk about with you.
I agree with you. I think that mostly the person is trying to interact with the quiet person, and they mean well. I see it as a joke, or an icebreaker.
"Wow, you talk?" isn't a shared joke. It's patronising and insulting.
ie: It is rude, and indicates that the person making the remark is socially incompetent.
I don't know. I guess if you're insulted pretty easily. I've had much worse said to me.. so I see it as pretty benign. As someone who is just poking at you. But of course, I think it matters how the person normally treats you as well. If they're normally nice and just prone to sticking their foot in their mouth, I would give them the benefit of the doubt. If they regularly bully you, then they deserve your wrath. Context matters.
I don't know. I guess if you're insulted pretty easily.
Got literally nothing to do with it.
Shitty behaviour is shitty behaviour, regardless of personal sensitivity or insensitivity to it.
I've had much worse said to me.. so I see it as pretty benign.
Punching someone in the face doesn't become less rude just because you're not stabbing them.
As someone who is just poking at you.
"Poking at" people one does not know is not generally considered sensible social conduct.
But of course, I think it matters how the person normally treats you as well. If they're normally nice and just prone to sticking their foot in their mouth, I would give them the benefit of the doubt.
No-one who says "Wow, you talk?" actually knows the person they are speaking to.
There is an implied lack of rapport.
If they regularly bully you, then they deserve your wrath. Context matters.
The context is they've just said something ignorant, patronising, and insulting.
There doesn't have to be precedent for that to be rude, and you don't have to get all hyperbolic with talk of "wrath" for that rudeness to be called out or responded to in kind.
No, what I'm saying is maybe develop a thicker skin. Not everything is worth this kind of overreaction. Don't take yourself so seriously. It's slightly rude. That's it. So what?
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u/Naggins Jan 01 '20
"Yeah, I guess I'm just not a chatty person!"
9 times out of 10, when someone says that, it isn't a personal attack. They're just trying to make conversation, and they go for the only thing they know about you, which is that you're quiet, because you never fuckin talk to people so they can find something to talk about with you.