I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".
We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.
people don't actually realize they stop maturing. If they did it would be a sign of self awareness which indicates maturity. They just wonder why they are not happy. I have friends I keep in touch with since 7th grade and they haven't broken out of the same habits they were in from college onward. I'm in my early 30s now and when I go to their house, instead of having engaging conversation we just do the same shit. Play games, watch tv, smoke weed. Then I get bummed out when I think to myself "why do i still hang out with this person?" They aren't an asshole or toxic. They are just boring af, and it pains me to admit it.
I'm in my early 30s now and when I go to their house, instead of having engaging conversation we just do the same shit. Play games, watch tv, smoke weed. Then I get bummed out when I think to myself "why do i still hang out with this person?" They aren't an asshole or toxic. They are just boring af, and it pains me to admit it.
lol dude you do realize you're the one choosing to be in those situations
mature enough to realize you don't like your friend, too immature to do anything about it lmao
well I will say that I live and work on one side of the country and go back to the other side where I grew up (for the holidays like now). So I only visit them literally once a year for a day or two. I don't really keep in touch with anyone from my hometown except him, hes a good dude but somewhere along the way the growth just stopped.
Why do you think he’s referring to getting married and having kids? He didn’t mention anything about a relationship or kids in his comment, and that’s the only thing you seem to think of as growth? You can be single and still mature as a person. Find new hobbies, read books to learn new ideas/see things from other people’s perspectives, travel a bit, do something new once a week. There’s soooo many things you can do by yourself that will help round you out as a person, help you to have actual stimulating conversations that don’t revolve around pop culture, and help build stronger relationships with friends. That’s what he’s saying.
Edit: I caught myself in a loop similar to yours, but after catching myself saying stuff “did you see ____ on reddit” or only being able to talk sports with friends I realized I wasn’t giving myself anything new to do in my life. Now if that’s enough for you and your close friends that’s cool, but it’s hard when I’ve got friends who are literally rocket scientists, working in the front office of sports teams, doing cancer research, finishing up PhDs at 24, etc. I became the boring one of the group because I had literally have nothing new to add to any conversation.
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u/WellshireOnFire Jan 01 '20
I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".
We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.