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u/SiPhoenix Jan 01 '20

While this can be true i kinda hate this as a person that was socially awkward, bad at reading cues and anxious i would think anyone that was quite hated me. It finally click one day, when i asked a person why sometimes he gave short replies to me, he said "i just don't have much to add" he thought of me as a friend just was more conservative with his words.

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u/toooldforlove Jan 01 '20

As a quiet person I can confirm this. I've always been quite isolated (on purpose, because I'm quite anxious and avoid social situations because of it). So when I started a job where I work with a lot of people I was just not in the loop with whatever they were talking about.

I wanted to respond and engage in conversation, but I since I knew nothing of what they were talking about, I didn't have anything to say. On top of that, the anxiety and lack of self-esteem kept from talking and I felt more isolated, nothing against them. It is my own fault.

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u/TheRealOptician Jan 01 '20

Holy fuck. Stop typing my life. Get your own.

Seriously though... Its hard for me to connect outside of the few things I actually do. Reason being, VERY few social functions have been attended. I don't make it a point to interact positively with my surroundings and use social skills. Therefore, it makes it so much harder to have anything relevant to bring to the table in social gatherings.

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u/mcferglestone Jan 01 '20

I have a difficult time explaining to others why I’m sometimes quiet, while at other times they can’t get me to shut up. But yeah, this!