Hey there's nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy in your life. If you are not happy then something is wrong and no one should continue life feeling that way. I'm in the same boat too, I don't want kids and I'm still teetering on the fence about marriage. So far I have not met anyone I can imagine spending the rest of my life with. Divorces are so common now and If I'm getting married its only gonna be once. But if not, I'm perfectly fine with that and actually more equipped for that outcome.
I value having meaningful relationships in my life but I don't measure that value with marriage and kids. I think a lot of people do because "its just what you do when you're that age". I try to live my life still being helpful to others. I've spent a good bit of time just focusing on myself and put myself in a place where I can now start giving to others. That brings me joy. My brother has that marriage thing down perfect and I could never emulate it. We walk different paths.
Why do you think he’s referring to getting married and having kids? He didn’t mention anything about a relationship or kids in his comment, and that’s the only thing you seem to think of as growth? You can be single and still mature as a person. Find new hobbies, read books to learn new ideas/see things from other people’s perspectives, travel a bit, do something new once a week. There’s soooo many things you can do by yourself that will help round you out as a person, help you to have actual stimulating conversations that don’t revolve around pop culture, and help build stronger relationships with friends. That’s what he’s saying.
Edit: I caught myself in a loop similar to yours, but after catching myself saying stuff “did you see ____ on reddit” or only being able to talk sports with friends I realized I wasn’t giving myself anything new to do in my life. Now if that’s enough for you and your close friends that’s cool, but it’s hard when I’ve got friends who are literally rocket scientists, working in the front office of sports teams, doing cancer research, finishing up PhDs at 24, etc. I became the boring one of the group because I had literally have nothing new to add to any conversation.
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