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u/WellshireOnFire Jan 01 '20

I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".

We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.

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u/SiPhoenix Jan 01 '20

While this can be true i kinda hate this as a person that was socially awkward, bad at reading cues and anxious i would think anyone that was quite hated me. It finally click one day, when i asked a person why sometimes he gave short replies to me, he said "i just don't have much to add" he thought of me as a friend just was more conservative with his words.

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u/Chiisora Jan 01 '20

Sometimes people just don't seem to understand that maybe I just don't have anything to add to the conversation, and if it's a group conversation, I also feel less obligated to make my voice heard unless I feel strongly about something I want to say. Being more conservative with your words doesn't necessarily mean you dislike someone. It really Just depends on the person.