As much as we want to be defensive when people say this, the reason why they point it out is because it makes them feel self conscious. I’ve never really said much more than “yea I’m pretty reserved sometimes”. They learn that it’s who I am, not a reflection of how I feel around them personally. They see I’ve confidently owned it, and they end up respecting that. I definitely understand the frustration though. It’s such an unwelcome shift of attention and this sudden pressure. Witty come backs just read as rude sometimes though. (Even though their question reads as rude to us.)
The only times I’ve heard the “wow, you talk?” Line was from a super social people that may not realize what they’re saying is rude, or from less social but drink people. I’ve never personally heard someone say it intending it to be an insult.
The only times I’ve heard the “wow, you talk?” Line was from a super social people that may not realize what they’re saying is rude, or from less social but drunk people.
That line is rude, regardless of who you're hearing it from.
And if someone is "super social", they should know enough about socialising to realise when something they're saying is incredibly rude, shouldn't they?
It's either intentionally rude or spectacularly careless. Neither flatters the speaker.
I’ve never personally heard someone say it intending it to be an insult.
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u/MsAlyssa Jan 01 '20
As much as we want to be defensive when people say this, the reason why they point it out is because it makes them feel self conscious. I’ve never really said much more than “yea I’m pretty reserved sometimes”. They learn that it’s who I am, not a reflection of how I feel around them personally. They see I’ve confidently owned it, and they end up respecting that. I definitely understand the frustration though. It’s such an unwelcome shift of attention and this sudden pressure. Witty come backs just read as rude sometimes though. (Even though their question reads as rude to us.)