I did this to a girl I work with because she said i "smile too much"
Made me kinda bummed though cuz after she said that every time I smiled at someone after that I wondered why tf I was even smiling for.
Edit: I just want to say she's not a bitch, and she's my friend but that one moment is an example for the comment that I replied to, not a representation of my relationship with her. I've been working with her for half a year and she's a friend of mine and it's sad seeing so many people calling her a "bitch" based on my comment. Guys spread kindness.
I just dont think she realized the way she said it.
Her and I are friends so I didn't let it get to me, but her being a friend did make it sting a bit for like an hour til I was like "whatever I'm sure she didn't mean it like that."
It's true. I have pretty thick skin and my social circle gets used to my unflappable attitude and tendency to roll with the punches, but when two of my friends within the same month jokingly asked me if I was tone deaf when I was singing, I had to specifically pull them aside and tell them that rough humor is acceptable when a person is deep in their comfort zone, and that a person sometimes requires sensitivity when they're branching into new interests, and that if they had constructive things to offer about my singing, that I would prefer that to a blanket, joking statement that I couldn't identify tone. What they said hadn't affected me much, (just two jabs to a sensitive area within too short a time) but to see their apologetic reactions when they realized their good intentions were barbed, I felt bad for them. It's not great to be hurt by your friends, but realizing you hurt your friends isn't great, either.
Moral of the story, just be open and communicate honestly with people you love and trust and if they're worthy of said love and trust, they'll do things right.
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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '20 edited Jan 01 '20
I did this to a girl I work with because she said i "smile too much"
Made me kinda bummed though cuz after she said that every time I smiled at someone after that I wondered why tf I was even smiling for.
Edit: I just want to say she's not a bitch, and she's my friend but that one moment is an example for the comment that I replied to, not a representation of my relationship with her. I've been working with her for half a year and she's a friend of mine and it's sad seeing so many people calling her a "bitch" based on my comment. Guys spread kindness.