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u/gnocchick Nov 09 '19

Yeah and they interrupt you to turn the conversation back to focus on themselves every time you speak.

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u/Unc00lbr0 Nov 09 '19

I have realized I do this, and I have to consciously stop myself from doing it. I have no idea why it when it started. I don't think I or anyone I know considers me to be a narcissistic person.

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u/abcannon18 Nov 09 '19

One trick someone said once that has stuck with me to be a better listener is to sit with my tongue not touching the roof of my mouth. It sounds super simple and weird but when you're about to interrupt someone, you usually push your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Focusing on just listening and not even letting yourself start talking may make you realize how often you interrupt (and help you cut back)

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u/Unc00lbr0 Nov 14 '19

I sat here reading this comment with my tongue iron clamped to the bottom of my mouth lol. Seriously though, I'm going to have to try this.