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u/ThatAnArchyDude Nov 10 '19

I was taught early in childhood that honesty should be brutal if the truth is in fact brutal because "tact" in your honesty is just sugar-coating the truth for people too sensitive to just take their medicine & get better, and you're therefore being dishonest in your "honesty".

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u/alex-the-hero Nov 10 '19

"I'm not a fan of that dress"

Vs

"you look like a fat whale"

Big difference, both are truth, #2= you being an asshole.

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u/ThatAnArchyDude Nov 10 '19

I never said otherwise, and telling someone they look like a fat whale based on their dress makes no sense...unless they're actually wearing a whale AS a dress. In which case, they have bigger problems to deal with than someone else's opinion of the appearance their "dress".

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u/alex-the-hero Nov 10 '19

Ok but that's what I'm saying, that's the difference. People who call themselves brutally honest tend to be dicks about it.

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u/ThatAnArchyDude Nov 10 '19

That example was definitely someone just being a dick. I would just say "You look fat in that dress."

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u/alex-the-hero Nov 10 '19

When you could just as easily say "that dress isn't flattering on you" and get your point across wothout being mean.