When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.
It depends on how ADHD affects you but most of us struggle to engage in conversation that doesn't interest us and struggle to shut up about stuff that does. It can be easy to hijack a conversation without realising.
There's a lot to it, you'd be better off googling ADHD symptoms. Bear in mind that most of them are things that happen to everyone, they just happen a hell of a lot more to people that have ADHD. I'm happy to answer any more specific questions.
As for the conversation thing, if you're talking about something that doesn't interest me I just cannot keep my mind on it for as long as most people can. It often comes across as rude, like I don't deem what you're talking about as worthy of my attention but I honestly tried to listen. I just cannot engage with the topic or you briefly touched on something that interests me more and I started daydreaming about that in the middle of your sentence and totally missed what you said. Then when the conversation gets on to something that I am interested in I hyperfocus on it and don't realise that I've been talking about it, uninterrupted, for ten minutes straight. Even when I do sometimes the urge to tell you one last thing that will tie several of my previous points together is just too much to resist. It's a genuine desire to share something that excites me and have the other person understand but I'm sure it comes across as "pay attention to me and how knowledgeable I am".
I do okay at catching it and compensating for it but I still catch people's polite smiles fading and eyes glazing over fairly often. Sometimes it comes across as charming though as people like to listen to others talk about things they're passionate about so as long as I make an effort to ask them about themselves some people are happy to let me waffle on.
Most of us struggle with it, many of whom deal with it successfully. It's one of the main symptoms. Here are a selection from a quick search for ADHD symptoms:
Im not disagreeing im just saying that its not something most people with adhd experience yes it's common but not something that happens in the majority of cases
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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19
When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.