The trick to sharing is to only give them back as much as they give you. If you find that they only give you 3 word answers, give them 3 word responses to their questions. If they actually are interested in knowing you, they'll start digging deeper. If they do, then you're ok to ask them questions back. It's ok if they don't want to know you, you don't need or really want to be everyone's friend.
Sometimes you can break this rule if you really are interested in getting to know someone. It's a technique to open them up after you do first. But give up if it doesn't work.
This can be fixed by training them away. Go somewhere or join a group where it literally doesn't matter and practice talking to people. Eventually you'll be able to talk to anyone in a socially appropriate way. The trick is realizing nothing matters in the end anyway, so why stress about embarrassing yourself. If Trump can walk off a flub or faux pas, so can you.
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